Stylish Women over 50
I recently read a great article by Who What Wear on older woman and fashion (you can read it here) and it got me thinking. . . so I decided to share a few facts and misconceptions about style and age.
"Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak." Rachel Zoe
Confidence is sexy as hell. Yup, that's right. A confident woman isn't into game playing or needing a man to pay attention to her to have fun. She will pick up her own bar tab and might even refuse to let you get hers. Why? Confidence. She will walk into a room smiling and full of energy; she will have great posture and will walk with intent. Often, 20 something gals will often walk in somewhat sheepishly with eyes searching for someone they know. I would tell her to "fake it till ya make it, sista"! Confidence comes from within and by the time you are in your 40's you have had enough life experiences and lessons to walk the walk! What else happens with a confident woman? You will be hit on by every Tom, Dick, and Harry. That's right girls.... the men are attracted to your beauty more in your late 30's to 50's then they ever were in your 20's.
Eye Cream is a Must. If I have said it once here, I have said it a thousand times..... you are never too young to wear eye cream. Trust me on this and go get yourself some. Your 40 something self will thank you.
The Twisted Road of Life. You plan and you plan..... but inevitably, life happens. There will be happy moments and unforeseen tragedies that will mess up the plan you have. Stop trying to plan out your whole life. You have heard the mile marker goals many times.... when to buy a house, start a family, move away, etc. Whatever is in your plan, throw it out the window and start enjoying life. Focus on the here and the now. The journey is the true reward, not the plan.
Life Long Friends. I remember meeting so many new people when I was in my 20's – new friends were everywhere. As you grow older, you realize you really didn't have anything in common with those people other than killing time together. Then, you realize something even more profound, having a wide circle of friends isn't near as important or meaningful as having a small, close knit circle of friends. Now, I'm not saying go out and dump everyone you know who isn't a close friend. Those people are acquaintances and they play an important role in your circle too. Trust your instincts and put effort and faith into the people who are worth having deep, meaningful friendships with beyond the surface; people that you can go months without speaking to or seeing and pick right back up with where you left off. These relationships do exist, cherish them.
Buy Quality. Whether we are talking household items or wardrobe items, this one is important. If you want to be a grown-up then you gotta play the part. It's easy to pick up items at Target and Ikea and trust me, we love them. But there comes a time you need to truly be patient and save; invest in quality. Mismatched, hand me down furniture has a time and place and generally it's college or your first apartment. It’s great to outfit your closet and home with trendy and chic items, but it they are "cheap stuff" you will regret it in about two years if not sooner. Pressed board, particle board, and veneers are all euphemisms for "It's not real wood.” Bottom line here..... buy right, buy once. Quality over quantity and it will last a lifetime.
You have a voice... know when to use it. You have seen people that speak their mind and have, ultimately, tripped over their own words. Having a voice and not having a filter are close cousins but not the same. Speak up for what you think and believe in regardless of others’ opinions but do have a filter when it comes to how you say it and to whom you say it. People deserve to see and hear the real you. Scary? Yes. Iinvigorating? Yes. Don't fake it till ya make it when it comes to your voice and don't try to be someone else. That just plain sucks. Be heard for who you are!
If only I could go back in time and talk to my 20 something year old self. What life lessons would you tell your 20 year old self? Are my life lessons the same as yours? Leave a comment and let me know.